Beyond Roses and Romance: Rethinking Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is often associated with grand gestures, heart-shaped chocolates, and a commercialized expectation of love. While these traditions bring joy to many, they can also create pressure, exclusion, and unrealistic expectations. Perhaps it’s time to rethink Valentine’s Day as more than a celebration of romantic love. Instead, we can use this day to highlight self-love, friendship, and meaningful connections beyond the conventional idea of romance.
Love in All Forms
Historically, Valentine’s Day originates from St. Valentine, a figure shrouded in legend, with stories of secret marriages and acts of kindness. However, love is not confined to romantic relationships. It exists in friendships, family bonds, and self-care. For students juggling academic pressures, part-time jobs, and social lives, Valentine’s Day can serve as a reminder to express appreciation for those who support them—whether it be friends who listen after a stressful day or professors who go the extra mile to help their students succeed.
The Pressure of Perfection
For many, Valentine’s Day can be a source of stress rather than joy. The pressure to be in a relationship or to meet the expectations of a "perfect" date can overshadow the simple act of expressing care. Social media amplifies these expectations, showcasing highlight reels of extravagant gifts and romantic getaways. Keep in mind, however, that love isn’t measured in expensive presents or public displays of affection. It’s found in the small moments—a heartfelt conversation, an act of kindness, or simply spending quality time together.
Self-Love and Mental Health
In the rush to find the perfect Valentine’s gift, we often forget to extend love to ourselves. University life can be demanding, and self-care is crucial for maintaining mental well-being. This Valentine’s Day, consider prioritizing yourself. Whether it’s reading a book, taking a break from social media, or treating yourself to a favorite meal, self-love is just as important as showing love to others. Remember, you are deserving of love and kindness, even from yourself.
Celebrating Friendship
Some of the most meaningful relationships in life are friendships. Valentine’s Day can be an opportunity to celebrate platonic love through simple gestures: a heartfelt message, a small handmade gift, or an invitation to hang out. In some cultures, like in Finland and Estonia, February 14th is known as "Friendship Day," shifting the focus away from romance and towards appreciation for friends. This perspective allows for a more inclusive and less pressurized celebration.
A New Perspective on Valentine’s Day
Instead of viewing Valentine’s Day as a day solely for couples, let’s embrace a broader view of love. It can be a time to reconnect with loved ones, express gratitude, and practice self-care. Whether single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, we can all find ways to make this day meaningful—without the pressure of meeting societal expectations.
This February 14th, let’s move beyond roses and romance and celebrate love in all its beautiful, diverse forms.
