Dear Single Girls
Being single in today’s society often carries perceived ideas that we are lonely, incomplete, or unlovable, whether or not we actively choose to stay single or due to the standards we set for the love we invite into our lives. It's important to stop focusing on society's view of singleness and instead embrace the beauty of this phase.
I’ve learned to embrace being single, to love the opportunities tied to it, and to take the time to build a relationship with myself before seeking it from others. There is a certain warmth associated with this phase. It has allowed me to discover what I truly value and understand myself beyond the surface level things but to rather tap into the deeper part of me that is connected to my heart and emotions. Singleness is a chance to reflect on what I want in a relationship and focus on cultivating self-love. No amount of love from others can fill the void if we haven’t learned to love ourselves first. This is a time to accept and love every part of who we are, fill your own cups including our flaws and everything that we currently represent.
This is why I’ve never disliked Valentine’s Day. To me, it’s not only about romantic love but also a celebration of all forms of love and connection. It’s a chance to show appreciation to those around you and to yourself. Emphasizing these forms of love creates feelings of belonging and fulfillment. This Valentine’s Day, embrace your singleness and find joy in it because it’s a powerful era we won’t be in forever. I talked to some friends about why they enjoy their single era to offer you different perspectives.
Mariam: Being single means freedom to me. As a friend of two people who recently married young, I enjoy being single, especially where I am in my life. Relationships can be beautiful with the right person, but they can also be stressful. You have to consider your partner’s feelings and make compromises. Right now, I want to do what I want, without considering anyone else.
Abibah: Being single means accepting and celebrating my individuality. I can discover and grow without the pressures of pleasing others or being restricted by a partner’s needs and desires.
K: I honour this era by focusing on my goals, becoming financially secure, finishing my degree, and trying new things. Most importantly, I’m learning to love myself so that I feel complete. When I’m ready for a relationship, I’ll already be whole, and my partner will compliment me, not complete me.
Imran: I hadn’t thought much about being single until you asked, but I love it because I focus on myself, my goals, and my passions, without worrying about anyone else’s needs or expectations. It’s all about independence.
Fatima: For me, being single means independence and self-reliance. I can focus on myself and do as I please without fitting into someone else’s schedule. I rely on myself for my happiness.
